Promescent First Use

19 Mar

As I wrote earlier, the Promescent arrived a couple of weeks ago.  Last night we finally decided to try it out.  Here’s how it went.

The night started off nicely.  We both got into to shower to rinse off.  The warm water, the familiar smells of soap and shampoo, and wet, slippery skin made for a very sensuous introduction to the following events.  We made out a little bit and at this point I started to get an erection.  We stopped, finished washing up, and got out of the shower.  So the stage was set for a good night.

The directions on the Promescent bottle say to apply it 10 minutes before intercourse.  The dosage is three to ten sprays and they suggest that you start with five sprays.  It doesn’t say how long numbing effect lasts and I didn’t want to apply in bed, so I decided to apply it as soon as I dried off.  I pulled the bottle out of the package and the first thing I notice was that it was an ordinary small spray bottle, like something that might be used for a breath spray.  I had expected something better, since the web site said it would administer exact doses.  The first spray was partial, and so was the third, so I applied another half spray after the fifth.  Not as exact as I had expected.

The next thing I noticed was the smell.  It smells very medicinal, like Listerine or something else that your mother used on you.  I suppose that it’s good that they don’t add a much of unnecessary ingredients, but I didn’t like the smell.  I rubbed it in as much as I could, and then washed my hands.  I could still smell it on my hands even after I washed them.  Not so good.

The directions say to rub it all in, so I rubbed for at least a minute.  I think that started to warm up my penis, but I also noticed a slight tingling sensation on my skin.  If it was worse, I would have described it as burning, but it was very light.  As soon as we started to make out, I forgot about it or it disappeared.

When my wife first started to stroke my penis, it was hard to tell if something was different.  It felt slightly numb, but I did notice my ejaculation reflex kicking in anyway.  So it was not much help at this point.  My penis eventually got very numb.  As she continued to rub it, I could tell something was going on, but I couldn’t feel my normal sensations.  I made me feel disconnected from my body, like my penis wasn’t there.  I didn’t really like it.  Kind of like trying to talk after having a cavity filled.

As it turns out, my wife was on fire last night, but unfortunately, I was not.  We did all kinds of things to turn her on and give her pleasure.  It was the most aroused she has been in a while and she had several orgasms (we didn’t count).  What we were doing and her response should have been a big turn-on for me, but I wasn’t responding.   She was stroking my penis but I wasn’t getting hard.  I don’t know what the problem was, the Promescent or my mind.  It was very frustrating to not respond to such passion.

After we slowed down, we focused on me, and with effort, I got an erection.  I was only slightly turned on at this point.  As I slid into her, I could feel that there was less sensation, but it didn’t really change my ejaculation reflex or threshold.  I couldn’t take the strokes that I wanted to, and our movement started to put my on the edge as it usually does.  I didn’t have control, and I exploded after a very short period of time.

So I would classify the first Promescent trail as a failure.  I didn’t like the smell or the numb feeling and it didn’t extend my intercourse time.  It may have even interfered with my arousal.  It’s not looking like a good solution so far.
I purchased three bottles, so I should have at least 5 applications left.  We’ll try it again.  I think I will use only 4 sprays next time and see what happens.

[Here is a follow-up on what McCarthy and Metz have to say about penis numbing]


Posted by on March 19, 2012 in Premature Ejaculation


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60 responses to “Promescent First Use

  1. frikoua

    April 23, 2012 at 2:27 pm

    so why it didnt u last longer if ur penis was numb?i dont get it.after u put promescent on ur penis did ur girlfriend do blowjob to ur numb penis?does any of the cream of promescent transferred to ur partners mouth?thanks!

    • diligentwarrior

      April 24, 2012 at 10:24 pm

      I am realizing that I didn’t last longer because what I feel on the skin of my penis is only a small part of the total sensation that I feel. In addition to the skin sensation, I feel the heat from her vagina, the tightness of her vagina, and the sensations of my penis being pushed and pulled as I thrust in and out. There is also the psychological and emotional arousal that having a numb penis will do nothing about. So there is so much more to sex than the feelings in the skin of my penis. I think that is why it didn’t work for me.
      My wife did not give me a blowjob that night; we had intercourse. No, the promescent did not transfer to my wife. I applied it as suggested, and there was nothing left on my skin by the time we had intercourse.

  2. EWthan M.

    September 12, 2012 at 1:40 am

    I have been a Promescent user for over a year. It sounds like you purchased the trial size, the spray is not as uniform and it is harder to dose. The 5 sprays is for someone with PE, if you are more of a recreational user then 3 sprays will work much better. I had similar difficulties my first use but stuck with it and now love it. Feel free to email me if you have any additional questions.

    • RyanT

      January 11, 2013 at 1:26 am

      EWathan. How long did you last before the Promescent and now how long do you last with it?

  3. Greg Kaminski

    January 23, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    I’m the VP of Marketing for Absorption Pharmaceuticals. I’d like to clarify a few things for those reading Be Free Indeeds blog.

    First, we appreciate those like Be Free who are providing an honest assessment of Promescent. We want total transparency with our users.

    However, Be Free – in my opinion – used WAY TOO MUCH Promescent for a typical use. That’s why – I believe – he got numb. 5 sprays is an amount for a severe PE patient. Most of our customers use 1-2 sprays. It’s a common mistake by first-time uers because of the FDA monograph.

    Be Free – thanks for blogging about Promescent. Please contact me by email. We have a number of things in common.

    • diligentwarrior

      January 28, 2013 at 10:43 pm

      I do have severe PE, but I would agree that the amount I used was too much. If I try it again, I will use less and apply it only the underside of my penis. I simply followed the directions the first time.
      Despite the over-numbing, I still have the problem that being numb didn’t keep me from ejaculating. I have other problems as well.

  4. Greg Kaminski

    January 28, 2013 at 11:41 pm

    Sounds good, diligentwarrior. Have you seen a physician who specializes in sexual dysfunction?

    BTW – the directions that come with Promescent follow the FDA monograph for general purpose lidocaine-based topical anesthetics. The monograph does specify 3-5 sprays. We’re finding that most men get good control with 1-2 sprays. So you’re not the only guy who used too much and felt numb. Good luck.

    • diligentwarrior

      January 29, 2013 at 10:44 pm

      Yes, I have seen a physician. He did a very brief examination, asked a couple of questions, then suggested Promescent. That’s how I got the product in the first place.

    • John

      March 27, 2013 at 6:13 pm

      Any suggestions on the smell? I really dont want my wife to know but its just a matter of time before she figures it out because of the smell.

      • diligentwarrior

        April 10, 2013 at 9:21 pm

        Why don’t you want to tell your wife? Seems like it would be good for her to know.

  5. Bugsy

    January 30, 2013 at 3:03 am

    @Diligentwarrior…….thank you for your detailed post. It has given me some hope. I have also suffered from severe PE for years now. It destroyed my marriage and I now live in fear of getting into a physical relationship.This is the 1st I’ve heard of Promescent. Would be most grateful of further updates on the effectiveness of this product.

    • diligentwarrior

      January 30, 2013 at 9:16 pm

      Sorry to hear you have PE. It sucks. Check out the Promescent web site – get can get trial sizes. I have had a couple of guys comment that it works for them.
      Given all of the comments and questions I have received recently, I am considering trying it again to get the dosage correct. I’ll keep you posted.
      Thanks for writing.

  6. First timer

    January 30, 2013 at 11:44 am

    So it looks like your first use was early last year so have you used it several times since with different results once you adjusted the dose? I would basically be interested in trying it but only for the use of controlling PE.. Thanks for the info..

    • diligentwarrior

      January 30, 2013 at 9:11 pm

      No, I haven’t tried it again. I was disappointed with how it worked that first time, so I never tried it again. I have had several comments about it recently, so maybe that means that I do need to try it again, to see if I can get the dose right. You’ll hear about it when I do.

      Thanks for writing.

  7. jeff

    February 3, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    I have really enjoyed the forum trail,one question I do have for the manufacturer’s of Promescent is after applying promescent to your penis how long does it last?? Viagra last for 4hrs,cilalis last for about 4-36hrs depending on the dose.

    • diligentwarrior

      February 8, 2013 at 8:43 pm

      Thanks for the question / comment. I don’t think they advertise a time. For me, it lasted about 45 minutes. It’s topical, so it doesn’t last as long as a time release pill would. You need to apply it right before sex.

  8. Jaybird

    February 6, 2013 at 2:34 pm

    Warrior, Give Promescent another try, I was referred by my Dr. and had a similar experience my first time. My second time I dialed back to 2 sprays and now have settled on 3. I am routinely lasting around 15 minutes and my norm was 2-3 prior to finding this product. Also I watched a video on their site and it shows to use the product on the underside of your penis rather than all over. I think that helped as well. Thanks for helping others. I found it through your blog. Jay

    • diligentwarrior

      February 8, 2013 at 8:59 pm

      Thanks for the comment. I am considering giving it another try. I have has several comments recently suggesting that I used too much the first time. I think, if nothing else, a little might get me over the edge.
      I’ll have to find that video. I think putting it on the underside would also make a big difference, and maybe only on the most sensitive parts. Everything else should be OK without it.
      I am glad to hear that it is working for you. I want to get this information out so it can help others also. PE sucks and anything that works is good.

      • Imabeliever

        February 11, 2013 at 5:26 pm

        Hey I started using it around the same time you did and at first I didn’t like it!! But it was my last chance, I have done everything a sane and crazy person would do to go longer haha… Stick with it!! I’m tellin u It works man and I’m happier than ever!! I’d love to tell u more and lil tricks to guaranteed help u out!!

      • diligentwarrior

        February 11, 2013 at 8:59 pm

        Thanks for the encouragement. I’d like to hear about your tips and tricks. Please leave another comment!

  9. Ewthan

    February 11, 2013 at 7:05 pm

    RyanT, I lasted about 2 minutes prior to Promescent and I immediately went to 5 or 6 minutes. I am now at 12-15 after 12 months and it is because the product allowed me to slow down and feel the point of inevitability. Once I felt that now I can control it. Before it just happened so fast it was over. Now I slow down switch positions a little and feel much more in control. I saw Promescent featured in the Chicago Sun times by the same blond lady who was on Dr. Oz. She saved my marriage.

  10. Jk

    February 22, 2013 at 3:29 pm

    Hey keep with it the stuff rules.well for me at least.I don’t last the longest but I tried this the other night.Just try the 1 or 2 sprays.Now that’s what I did but massaged the whole penis area with instead of just the area the clip recommends on the site.And it really worked out great.I could not believe and I only bought the one trial bottle.When I have the extra $ I will purchase more.THEY NEED SOME COUPONS .LOL BUT STAY WITH FOR A WHILE.Good luck

    • diligentwarrior

      February 22, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      Thanks for the encouragement. Save up – it sounds like it’s worth it!

      • Imabeliever

        February 24, 2013 at 1:15 pm

        Hey it’s me again! Listen man your killing yourself right now, trust me I know from experience that this pe problem will eat at u for the rest of your life man… Ok look, the spray pretty much is a numbing spray I don’t care what they say, I’ve tried ever dosage! I usually use 3-4 sprays and I run it in under by the tip where it’s most sensitive, that’s the important part! Make sure u concentrate on that area… Now after u put it on u have to forget a out it, this sex thing is all a big mental ordeal! Give your lady 4-play, concentrate on her and before u know it, ur shit will be good to go!! Now obviously if u were to use a condom it’s a night/day difference, but if u don’t u have to concentrate sometimes on not how good it feels but something else!! It’s unfortunate but dude, there is nothing else out there!! No miricle cure to where u take it and your normal!! Like I said I’ve tried everything man I was that desperate, from sex pills & cream to even different types of drugs!! Yeaa I went that far! But use the spray again, even If it’s by yourself man and I promise you, I promise u will be happy and so will your lady!! Oh and the best part is once u start gettig the hang of it, it’s all down hill from there seriously!! I’ll never stop using it ever!! Let me know what’s up, don’t give up! I have some other things I can tell u which u may or may not wanna do, just depends on you I course..

      • diligentwarrior

        February 26, 2013 at 8:44 pm

        Welcome back. I’ll try it again the way you suggest.
        It is a mental game, and I think I need to get better at it.
        If you have some other things I can try, I would love to hear it. I am open to anything that might work. Sounds like you’ve tried everything and eliminated the bad, so I’ve like to hear the good.

  11. ImaPT

    February 28, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    They need better instructions! I only used 2 sprays and my entire unit was numb and I could not get it up at all. I am going to try 1 spray next time, but they should send me a free bottle for the damn frustration and embarrasment of the first time.

    • diligentwarrior

      March 3, 2013 at 9:34 pm

      I would agree, and maybe some first hand experience from people like us. I think they are working on it, because the site is different than it was when I first purchased. An I guess this is a good forum for this also.
      Try it again and let us know how it works for you.

  12. Imabeliever

    March 3, 2013 at 12:21 pm

    Hey hope u tried it again at least… Ok well I know when I tried it a few times at first I wasn’t getting fully hard, so what I did was get Viagra! LoL I know it sounds extreme but its not man.. I’ll take one and break it into 4 pieces and just take one quarter piece and my stuff won’t go down when it kicks in!! Thats helped me a lot man an even I have a prescription for pain killers and that also helps out big time!! The thing is, when I was a young teenager I was having sex everyday all day literally!! As I got older things got twisted and I have this serious problem which pretty much stopped me from having sex!! But man since I got promescent I promise u that I have made up all that lost time and some!! Dude I’m seriously a sex addict cause I can’t stop having sex!! So like said, don’t quit keep trying it the way I explained and man u will be happier than u ever been in your life!! And remember ur lady don’t have to know u sprayed it on, just play it off have fun!! Remember, there is nothing worse than denying ur lady sex because of this problem! She will unfortunately leave, I don’t wanna scare u but I been through it myself! 8yr relationship gone… Make it work hae fun, any question ask!!

    • diligentwarrior

      March 3, 2013 at 9:47 pm

      Actually I have seen Viagra suggested in a couple of places to help with confidence when you are working on premature ejaculation. My wife has suggested that also. I haven’t tried that yet. I’ll see if I can get the promescent to work first. I did try it a another time, but the spayer wasn’t working very well, so I am not going to count that.
      We are going to make this work. We have a good marriage, and this is something we are working on. I am sure we’ll get through it.
      thanks for the update and the suggestions.

  13. honesty

    March 8, 2013 at 5:57 pm

    One thing that does work is a drug called Dapoxetine. It is a Rx drug but is not currently available in the U.S. It is a short acting SSRI (anti-depressant). So it’s like Zoloft but is out of your body within a few hours. A close “friend” has had great success taking it, but the only way to obtain it is to buy it from a research chemicals website (these are easy to find). It’s cheap, it works, but again not-approved in the U.S., and we all have to decide what risks we want to take. This isn’t spam, I’m being honest here, look it up.

    • diligentwarrior

      March 9, 2013 at 1:43 pm

      Yes, I have heard about this, and I’ve seen a couple of studies that seem to show that using SSRIs help with PE. I was on an SSRI when I first got married, but it didn’t help me. I would be interested in hearing about other guys who’ve had success with any SSRI.

  14. honesty

    March 14, 2013 at 10:45 am

    Actually I used to take zoloft, and it helped for a little for one week, then not near as much after that. Dapoxetine worked 75% of the time. You have to get the timing, but when you do your filled with happiness because you realize how awesome sex would be if it were always like this. Being able to relax and enjoy it.

  15. grinder

    March 20, 2013 at 1:53 pm

    Im 48. 10 years ago me and the wife could go as long as we wanted to. She has orgasms every 2 minutes if she wanted, its pretty amazing. The past 4-5 years have not been so good. Im able to keep hard long enough for her to have 3 orgasms, which is about 5 minutes, and then i go limp. So for me to finish i have to finish myself. Wife said i was worried to much etc but it was no fun. So i took a chance and ordered Cialis from over in India. Yeah it was risky but my insurance only let me get 4 pills every 6 months and they were $25 per so when i could get 20 from India for $30 i figured it was worth a shot. They came in and i tried them and bam, they worked like a champ and i was rock hard for as long as i wanted. So when me and the wife started having sex while i was on the pills (and i cut them in half, they are 20mg so i take 10mg) then i didnt worry about staying hard or not having an orgasm or anything. I knew i was going to be erect for a long time and now the wife ends up calling time out and im still ready to go. When you dont have to worry about anything other than making her have orgasms, then everything works much easier. Ill still watch internet porn and do myself for as long as i can stand it just to build up resistance to having an orgasm myself. You feel it coming on, you stop and let it subside but the neat thing is that you are still erect. Your mind is your own worst enemy, and it certainly was for me.

    • diligentwarrior

      March 22, 2013 at 10:38 pm

      I’m having trouble getting past the every two minutes to the rest of your comment. Yes, I think Cialis and Viagra are great for getting over PE. I’ve read that for a lot of men, PE leads to ED because they get so nervous. I know that happened to me also. I am glad Cialis is working for you.
      You are right, your mind is your own worst enemy. I have to fight to keep my thoughts in line. I have keep myself calm.
      Thanks for the comment.

  16. Manuel

    April 9, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    Has anyone received a blowjob while using promescent? I’m wondering if it transferred to her mouth? I want to try it but this is one reason I haven’t yet

    • diligentwarrior

      April 10, 2013 at 9:22 pm

      We didn’t do that, but the skin in the mouth is similar to the skin in the vagina. It did not transfer to my wife’s vagina, so I don’t think it would transfer to her mouth either.

  17. Jeff

    April 11, 2013 at 8:07 am

    Am yet to use this miracle cream, but I believe you can always rinse off your penis prior to having sex with your partner according to the doctors.’GRINDER’ please be very careful buying drugs from the third world countries the health consequences are tremendous.

    • louise

      May 1, 2013 at 9:23 am

      hey guys just wondering if this spray is worth a go my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and at the start the sex was awesome but 3 years on and he finds it hard not to cum so quick I don’t mind because he is my world but I can see he thinks im disappointed and im not, he has no problems getting hard its just lasting that bit longer would be great im unsure if I should buy this spray cause if it makes it Harder to get erect then that may make it worse and how many sprays do u use I have no idea what to do
      we try different position I give head we have tried having sex a number of a day to see if its not a bulid up that’s just wanting to get out but it still happens fast please help
      much thanks louise

      • diligentwarrior

        May 7, 2013 at 9:20 pm

        Yes, I think the spray is worth trying; however, based on your comment, I suggest you look a bit deeper. If he had not problem controlling ejaculation when you first started having sex, but he has problems now, that may be an indication of a deeper problem. It would be worth talking to a professional or at least working through a good book to get to the root of the problem.

      • louise

        May 7, 2013 at 9:32 pm

        I have asked him he said he can’t control his thoughts he gets that excited that he can’t turn off the difference from 3 years ago is we where starting out and getting to know each other getting to know our likes and dislikes now we have it down packed I can’t get the spray im in Queensland I think it’s only usa available ?

      • diligentwarrior

        May 9, 2013 at 9:42 pm

        I can understand that. I certainly had more difficulty the better I got to know my wife. They key is, however, he does need to learn to control his thoughts. That is the responsibility of the man in a sexual relationship. I have to do the same.
        According to the Promescent web site, they will ship to Australia ( Give it a try and let us know how it works for you two!

  18. honest

    May 8, 2013 at 5:56 pm

    Now that I have figured how much I need and where to put it, it is does help. I only use 1 spray, on the underside under the tip, and then about 1 inch down in a path the size of a normal pinkie. It’s not as fun as dapoxetine, but it does relax the most sensitive part for me, which helps. The directions should say to start with 1 spray and only add more if needed. Hope this helps.

    • diligentwarrior

      May 9, 2013 at 9:47 pm

      Thanks, I think that is good advice. Start out with very little and add more as you need it.
      What is your experience with dapoxetine? I’d like to hear about it.

      • Zodiac88

        May 19, 2013 at 4:07 pm

        Hi, just wondering if anyne has tried dapoxetine? I’ve heard good things but you can never really trust a lot of sites out there.

        Also, have you tried Promescent again? And does anyone know how I can get it in France? I’ve tried to purchase it online as they say they ship to France but once I get to checkout the options are only US, Canada and Mexico…

      • diligentwarrior

        May 25, 2013 at 9:05 pm

        I have not tried dapoxetine, but I encourage anyone who has to post a comment. It’s encouraging to hear about anyone having success against PE.
        I was on an SSRI when I got married, and it didn’t seem to help then, and I didn’t notice my symptoms getting worse when I stopped taking it. Consequently, I haven’t been enthusiastic about trying another SSRI.
        I haven’t tried Promescent again for all of the reasons in my various posts.
        There is a customer service email address on the Promescent web site. See if they can help you get it to France.

  19. Johnny

    June 2, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    I have tried dapoxetine several times in the hope it will work. Each time gave me headache in the morning and I did not see any difference.

  20. larry

    June 13, 2013 at 2:09 am

    just would like to tell everyone that all their comment’s give me hope,i’ve just tried to get promescent delivered to australia but they can’t.i find this strange because on their website they have the prices of delivery to australia.

  21. grandia

    July 13, 2013 at 10:41 am

    Promescent does deliver to australia, i emailed them and they said that their website currently doesn’t have an option to deliver to australia, but if you want they can organise a shipment for you. You have to tell them how much you are buying and your shipping/address etc and they will email u a receipt and then sort out the payment.
    I haven’t bought it yet but thats what they told me when i emailed them.

  22. Johnson Grew

    July 25, 2013 at 2:21 pm

    I suffer from a more sever case of PE. I had become scared of sex because the thought in the back of my mind was that each woman when it came time to have sex would not want to be with me because of my condition. My sex therapist recommended Promescent. It cured my PE and restored my confidence in myself.

  23. never enough

    July 30, 2013 at 11:19 pm

    this site is making me cry

    • diligentwarrior

      August 3, 2013 at 6:06 pm

      Why do you say that?

  24. never enough

    August 6, 2013 at 10:47 am

    All my life it has been this way… I have gone through so much.
    it seemed like i was the only one

    • diligentwarrior

      August 7, 2013 at 9:34 pm

      Welcome to the blog. I know how you feel – like you are the only one. Well you are not alone and there is hope. I am seeing progress and you can too. There are lots of resources for options and approaches. Pick one and get started.

  25. 0kt4v1

    September 21, 2013 at 2:45 am

    I’m from Indonesia.
    Here we have several brand for this kind of spray. Most of them is sold online. However, the price is much cheaper (US$ 10 – 15). I am interested in promescent. Will it be better than all other spray considering that the price is much higher? I read their website but I still don’t understand how this product differs from the rest. Where can I get it in Indonesia? I check their website and they only ship to US and Canada.

    • diligentwarrior

      September 29, 2013 at 2:04 pm

      Thanks for your comment, but I cannot answer your questions. There is another comment that suggested that if you call them, you may be able to arrange shipment to another country.

  26. No effect

    November 1, 2013 at 12:08 am

    How am I the only one NOT numbed by this product? I used 5 sprays and there was no desensitizing whatsoever. Confused.

    • diligentwarrior

      November 1, 2013 at 8:51 pm

      I think it’s overrated. Look at the rest of the stuff on my blog. If you want to stick with the spray, I believe the directions say you can use up to 10 sprays.

  27. Jenny

    November 4, 2013 at 11:53 am

    Am I the only girl reading these? There is way too many comments to go through and see! I just ordered this online last night for my husband. We have been married almost 4 years. He has a severe PE problem. Its not even a minute. Its very frustrating for me! He never really wants sex, and Im starting to think maybe he just isnt into me anymore. He doesnt talk about it and I get mad because when we do have sex, and its over in a minute it seems as though he doesnt care. I have never been with a man who was like this, so its all new to me. I was reading up on PE and thats what made me order Promescent. Thanks for leaving “real” replys guys! I hop e it works!! 🙂

    • diligentwarrior

      November 5, 2013 at 7:03 pm

      Thanks for the comment. The embarrassment, shame, and disappointment men experience when they have PE is almost incomprehensible by women. I can make them withdraw and become passive. But since you are not sure about how he feels about you, it would be good for the two of you to talk to someone about it and open up communication.
      I appreciated your willingness to address this issue. When your husband starts to work on his PE seriously, he will make much better progress with you walking through this with him.

  28. Humanitarian

    December 19, 2013 at 9:38 am


    How did it work with your husband? I am trying to see if it has proven to be an effective way of preventing PE. Please share.

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