Recently, I’ve talked about several things that I’ve found out about myself and my sex life. This is all built on the progress I’ve made in relaxing my pelvic floor with the help of the physical therapist. There are a lot of ideas, information, and approaches coming at me quickly that I think will help me to improve my ejaculation control. I’ve had a hard time assimilating it all, but I finally got a chance to put it all together.
I started the night relaxing, like I had done previously. I started out stimulating myself and relaxing my pelvic floor muscles so that I would be ready for sex. After about five minutes, my wife came into the room and started to get undressed. She looked hot walking around the room naked, so my erection immediately jumped from 60% to 95%. I felt a huge rush of sexual energy, but I was able to control it and keep myself from getting too excited. I relaxed my body and reminded myself to enjoy the moment and not think about what was coming up.
We did have a little bit of an awkward time getting together, since she was just starting out, but I was already fully aroused. It took a little while, but we finally got her up to speed. Eventually, I entered her slowly and I started to take shallow and gentle thrusts. I could feel the sexual energy start to rise, and I was able to contract some of my pelvic floor muscles to control my arousal. This was really the first time I was able to do something like that. I felt like I could thrust, get really turned on, then back off a little, squeeze my muscles, and reduce my arousal.
As a result, things were going well. At times I was able to speed it up and take deeper thrusts, but most of them were shallow. As it turned out, it was still working for my wife. At some point I realized that she was getting close to having an orgasm. I immediately started saying to myself, “She is going to have an orgasm, which is the point of sex. I know what it is going to feel like and if I let myself get carried away, I am going to come. That is going to put an end to this great sex, so I need to remain calm, focus on breathing and squeeze my pelvic floor when necessary.” I continued to remind myself to relax and to not get carried away by the moment. I was able to keep myself at a moderate arousal level and continue thrusting gently. All of a sudden her muscles started to tighten up and I could feel her vagina contract with her “stealth” orgasm. I focused on relaxing and continued the gentle thrusting. I was able to make it through her entire orgasm before I had to take a break. I was very aroused, but I was able to keep control and keep going. This was the first time I have ever been able to do that!
Despite what my wife says, she is not fully physically aroused until she has at least one orgasm. So after that, we were both really turned on and really enjoying the experience. I was able to do some more deep thrusts, then back out and do some shallow thrusts. We were having a great time. I am still an amateur, however, and at some point I took one too many deep strokes and I couldn’t control it. I started to orgasm, but fortunately, my wife wasn’t far behind me. We ended very hot and heavy and passionate. It was a great sex night!
I was thrilled that I was able to put everything together to make sex work for me and for my wife. I was pleased that I was able to keep myself calm through her orgasm and continue having sex afterwards. I have never been in so much control while being so aroused. It was great both physically and mentally. It was the best I’ve felt after sex in a while. Let’s hope I can do it again next time.